We have a saying in Spanish “No es para tanto”. It’s like saying it’s no big deal, but it literally means it’s not for so much meaning that the reaction is disproportionate to the experience. I love this saying because this is how life is, it’s not for so much.
Life brings us problems all of the time. Emergencies, difficulties, bothers, things to anger us, to worry us and so on. As I sit here in Starbucks in San Miguel de Allende there is a man at the next coffee table speaking with a young lady making a big to do about nothing. He’s American, but keeps saying things in English and then in Spanish, emphasizing how dramatic his story is by saying it twice. He is loud and boisterous, taking up a lot of energetic space and sound space, meaning that we can all hear him better than our own table’s conversations. Needless to say, he is going on and on about how “shocked” he was about how people have treated him. No doubt.
We all have problems and although some problems seem worse than others, we can’t really compare because we don’t know what energy another person has and what they are attracting to their lives. So, we all need to turn our problems into lemonade. After all, “no es para tanto.”
The gentleman at the next table is taking himself further and further out of his flow by going on and on about how it’s someone else’s fault; about how he was wronged. He is enhancing the energy of being wronged and, no doubt, in his life people will continue to wrong him (in his eyes).
To get into our flow we all need to truly have our experience. For example, the man I have used as an example would need to experience what he has called being wronged and truly be with that experience. By feeling what it feels like to be thus mistreated, he would allow his experience and flow it. This alone would change him and his life. It would change how he sees his own story so that he would begin to recognize that he has had a part in it all.
He has attracted and created this just as much as the person he feels wronged him. He would begin to see that throwing all the blame on another is irresponsible because it takes away his opportunity to change himself and make a correction in his life. Flowing is a process: we welcome what we are thinking, feeling and experiencing so that we are truly experiencing our lives. When we remember something or re-experience the same thing then we need to flow it again. As this man flows the memories when they return, he might even see how he actually imposes himself on other as well, doing to others what he is claiming has been done to him.
Life is short, though when we are continually focused on what makes us bitter then we often feel like the pain of life goes on forever. Life can be cruel, but only when we choose to remain in a painful place, like the place where we are victimized.
On the other hand, life can be sweet, like when we take responsibility for our lives and we allow our experience to be with us; when we feel the way we feel. Then life flows and even sadness or pain become transformed, yielding joy and a new day filled with new possibilities, new love and new happiness. At that point, our Golden Flow™ from our Source Energy turns our lives into lemonade!
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Learn more about getting into your flow & the Golden Flow™ system at www.golden-flow-system.com
Sitting on top of the Sun
Greetings!
I wanted to share some of my experiences over the last few weeks here, because they have been quite magical.
We held a workshop here in San Miguel de Allende, Mexico. The workshop included a day trip to Teotihuacan and a New Moon ceremony with a shaman. The workshop went extremely well, undoubtedly the best ever. Everyone had a great process, truly worked in the world of energy and saw the energetic probability, or possibility, before them that they wanted to attract or manifest in their lives. Everything was magical, from the space that the men opened in the room we held the workshop in to the trip to Teotihuacan. It was fantastic! I was also very pleasantly surprised at all the secrets and information that Teotihuacan opened to us. As you can see in the photo above, we really were under a magical spell.
The journey was followed by a women’s gathering for the next 3 days, which was a very pleasant treat for us ladies. It gave us the opportunity to then focus on topics personal to ourselves and it also gave us the time to work on our the dream and probability we are focusing on even more.
The above pictures are from an experience we had at the Botanical Garden. I had the ladies get themselves some candy and a container to bless and to imbue with the energy of their dream, so that they may taste and eat from the sweetness of their desires every day, connecting them to their dreams. This was followed by a healing process. We opened to the energy of our Source and of the garden to allow healing love and light to come into our bodies, which I facilitated.
We then took the healing one step further the next day: each woman received a Shamanic Egg Cleansing and some healing work. Everyone commented on how nice it was to feel their bodies open, expand and receive healing to any aligments.
All in all, both the Journey and the Women’s Gathering were fulfilling to everyone. We all felt our hearts being opened by Teotihuacan and we all felt the energy coming in to us.
Every participant was a wonderful addition to our group and each person really has their own essence, their own gift and their own piece that they come to shift and refine on the journey. In this, they really are a part of a puzzle when we all come together and each piece is needed and appreciated. It is great to have a whole experience in this way.
Now I’m looking forward to our next journey at the end of May. Not only will we be taking on another pyramid in the Mayan Caribbean, but our we are then inviting journey participants, our family and friends to come to our vow renewals, a ceremony that will be held on the beach and performed by a Mayan shaman. This too is promising to be quite an event!
Love & Light,
Kalyn
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Kristopher & Kalyn Raphael, or K2, have been spiritual life coaches for ten years. They work directly with people taking them on journeys, cruises, leading classes on the internet and coaching groups. They are both published authors and are the founders of The Golden Flow(TM)system of accelerated enlightenment and The Toltec Mystery School.
Part Three:
Sunshine
On this trip we did a lot of driving from one city to another, from one site to the next. What a blessing! I was so grateful to get to see to pyramids, which I love seeing. Their energy is always so magical. I feel loved, supported; in my flow. I feel empowered, impacted and able. I am more of myself. I had already known that sacred sites tap me right into my Source Flow.
Focusing on the many things I was discovering and enjoying on this trip has made it easy to stay in my flow this week. Even my dad and his wife’s custom to keep a full schedule, which wore me down quickly from a lack of time to connect with myself didn’t knock me out of my flow.
My dad’s wife, on the other hand, had a harder time than I did at times due to the heat and due to a few little spats between them. She is pretty sensitive to the sun and the heat. Being in the sun for too long gives her headaches, puts her in a bad mood and generally gives her body a hard time. In the car, I’m the opposite. The air conditioning tends to chill me so I prefer the sunny side of the car. Sitting in the back of the car we were a perfect match! I’d warm up in the sun and she’d cool down in the shade. However, being as bothered with the sun as she was, she tended to attract the sunny side of the car, no matter what. She would ask which direction we were driving in to try to avoid the sun or she would trade me sides when we stopped for gas but, inevitably, her side of the car would be hot. While I kept warm with my shall, she got headaches and grumpy.
Once again I couldn’t help but see what life was putting right in front of me. How could I miss it? I heard my father’s wife struggle with the sun every day. Here what struck me most was the fact that it didn’t matter what she did to try to stay shaded because, in her lack of flow, her efforts were fruitless. On the contrary, I was fine. I had brought my crocheting, which I quickly pulled out at the beginning of our road trip to entertain myself. This really helped the time in the car go by quickly for me, putting me in my flow. My dad’s wife, unfortunately, saw me take my crocheting out, sighed and told me that my dad had told her not to take up space by carrying hers since we were flying. Now she longingly looked at my yarn and crochet hook and sighed again. I suggested she buy some yarn and a hook the first chance she could, which she did. Clearly this helped her entertain herself in the car, but she still struggled with being over-heated.
Life’s point this time was a pronounced example of how we really do attract experiences that reflect our energy. She and I each had temperature sensitivity issues and we each crochet, but my experience was far more pleasant than hers. I know that I need to make the choices in life that are most in my flow. I need to allow.
This was a great, illustrated example. So often people talk about being in the flow or having had a great time on a vacation, but they are often comparing apples and oranges. In this life example, she and I are both saying that we had a great vacation and a great time. Nevertheless, I had a completely different experience than she did in many ways, namely by feeling light, enjoying, welcoming the experiences that came my way, even the long day trips that I didn’t prefer or some negativity towards life my dad expressed. Whereas she was grumpy at least once a day, she often said she was having a good time but obviously didn’t mean it and felt ill a few times. Now, I’m not saying she didn’t have a good time, I’m just saying that we had very distinct experiences and that, in my flow state I allowed joy, adventure and knowingness in my experience. Quite a juxtaposition to her journey’s challenges.
Part Two:
The Pelican’s Glide
As the co-founder of The Golden Flow™ system, I know quite a bit about being in my flow, about what the flow state is and about using the energy of Source to create my life. Nevertheless, while visiting Celestún I had a great flowing experience.
We’d come here to see the mangroves, pink flamingos, pelicans and other wild birds that live here. After buying our tickets we walked to the end of the dock, stepped carefully into a boat that sat up to ten passengers and waited for our guide to start the engine. This area of Mexico tends to be very hot and muggy, but this mid-December day was beautiful and pleasant. We began admiring the red water (a natural phenomenon that occurs this time of year when the red tree trunks from the mangrove paint the water) as we waited patiently for our guide to try to start the boat’s engine. After the first three or four tries I wondered if we’d have to change boats. Another couple of tries and we were off! It wasn’t long before the peninsula brought us to several large birds on the mangroves, in the water and some flying by.
To my surprise, one pelican seemed to be flying in the same direction we were traveling in. The boat was traveling quickly, but the pelican not only kept up with us, but even started going faster than us. The pelican didn’t flap its wings and it wasn’t a windy day. This bird truly caught my eye because he was clearly showing me still more about the power of being in the flow state. The bird clearly illustrated to me something profound about life.
I couldn’t help but notice the side-by-side comparison life was placing before me. While we traveled in this loud, bumpy boat whose engine, no doubt, burned more than it’s share of gas, this pelican flew effortlessly, more smoothly and traveled faster than we did.
All the efforts of our man-made boat, mechanical engine and our ability to travel quickly on the water to a bird sanctuary looked small next to this pelican. Our efforts seemed huge while the pelican’s gliding was smooth, divine. I also noticed that with our intelligence, humanity had found a way to break a natural law by traveling on water through the invention of the boat. Well, the pelican naturally broke a law of mine because it traveled on air. While our invention took efforting and ingenuity, which is great, the pelican’s flight only took allowing the flow, which turned out to be more powerful.
The message was clear. The pelican had more grace, more elegance and more power because she was using the flow state. She was allowing life to carry her, to guide her and to give her more than we had. She was saving her energy, whereas we were using ours in the form of money for the tour, gas for the boat and so on.
Again, I am reminded of my teachers because I know the impact of this message. It is telling me to increase my allowing in my life; to get further still into my flow and to effort less in my life. I know that if I do so, my life will bring me even more with even less work on my part. My life will also bring me more than I could ever create on my own.
My teachers once said to me that it isn’t often in life that I will know things. When you do know something, they said, then use that and act upon it.
It’s not that this was an esoteric secret, it’s just that I’d never thought to think about the fact that there are things I know inherently somehow, things that I have a good idea about and many more that I just don’t know.
So many things in life are uncertain. Most of the time, at best, we make an educated guess, we do our best and hope things work out. But sometimes we know. And when we know, then we also know what to do and where that will lead us. This was their point, when I know, then I should let nothing stop me from using my knowingness.
Today is the anniversary of the day I was born. You may call it my birthday, but since I celebrate my birthday at a different time of year I think of this as a time of year when life seems to open to me. And this week has opened to me.
This week we met my father and his wife in Mexico City and we flew to the Campeche and Yucatan area. We are spending time together, of course, but part of the intent of the trip was for me to see some of my roots, some of my father’s heritage.
The trip has been, unexpectedly, very tourist-like. We have gone and seen Mérida, Campeche, the pyramid sites of Edzná, Uxmal, the city where my dad was born called Ciudad del Carmen; we also went to a small ecological area called Celestún. We saw some family in Ciudad del Carmen and drove around the neighborhood where my father grew up and went to school. We saw his local church and another church who had acquired their land as a donation by one of my father’s uncles. (This uncle had bequeathed quite a bit of land, donating several plots of land to various religions, no doubt to cover his basis!) The only thing that we didn’t get to do was to see my grandparents and great-grand parent’s graves.
Even with all of these sites, nothing stirred me, nothing touched me or felt like it was a part of me or my past. It was as if I were the complete stranger to these places that I am.
Still, I came to a place of knowingness several times on this trip.
Perception & You
Have you ever noticed or gotten frustrated with, what seems like, things changing?
In other words, have you ever gone down the same road to get to the same place and felt like the turn off wasn’t there? Or, hopefully you have had a better experience: We headed down to San Miguel de Allende. Last time the trip took 26 hours. You’d think that the same trip would take the same amount of time, but things changed. All of a sudden there was another highway that we could take, which was a smoother ride – and shorter. Once we crossed the boarder the same highway we had taken last time also went quicker and seemed different. More beautiful and with less toll booths.
How could this be? How can the same highway on the same road give us such a different experience? Sure, a new highway may give a different result, but how does the same highway do this?
The answer is easy – we are bending physicality. While the rules of physicality, or form, are constant one thing is not. That one thing is energy.
When you are in your flow, your energy is different and the energy you attract is different. When you are out of your flow your energy is vibrating lower than when you are in the flow and what you attract vibrates lower as well. Another way of saying this is that in a higher energy, or your flow (what is often called the vortex) even the same highway provides a different experience all together.
This difference is accounted for by the shift in perception we experience from the energy we hold. But, for now this is not relevant.
What is relevant is that when we get into our flow of well-being, we shift our energy and our whole experience. If you don’t like something you are experiencing or if you want to change what you experience in the future, the place to focus is on yourself. Get yourself into your Source Flow and your life will change, improve.
Too often our egos, or the parts of us that are out of the flow and justify being here, tell us that we don’t deserve to be in a better place. Or there is some other reason or excuse for our not being in a better place. Do you buy this?
If you are not in a better place, you have believed that you belong where you do. After all, that is why you are experiencing what you are experiencing. No worries though, you can change this.
Even if you are in your flow you can change this and improve it! Do so, decide for yourself that I am right and that you can improve your life, you can attract what you prefer. After all, I’m doing it so why can’t you?
Welcome your experience and let it flow. Take a few minutes out of your busy day to talk to your Source and tell it/you that you are ready for a change. You are ready to be the You that is in a better place. And then allow that better place to come to you.
Use the amazing resources that are available in our day and age – use the free Golden Flow(TM) process we offer at http:golden-flow-system.com – use what ever it takes, because you are worth it! You are meant to have the experience you prefer, even if you are going down the same road.
Love & Light,
Kalyn
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Kalyn B Raphael is a Spiritual Life Coach, Co-founder of the Golden Flow™ System, a published author and channels The Oracle (www.Oracle-Light.com). Kalyn has worked with people for nearly ten years helping them significantly improve their lives in accordance to universal laws through classes, seminars and on journeys.
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November 17th, 2009 by Kalyn
Allow & AlignI am in a highly creative/dreaming (or attracting) mode. I have been spending time every evening to flow my energy and have now turned the corner into flowing my dreams.
Last night I began to dream about where I want to be in five years, what I want to be doing. During the dreaming I activated this energy and allowed the desire to take more and more shape. Afterwards I worked on aligning my energy to the desire. In the alignment process I found bridges between my days now and my days in my dreams five years from now.
So today I will be bridging this energy. I will be experiencing the energy of my fulfilled dreams and a few manifestations today, instead of waiting five years and shortening the time it will take for my dreams to come forward. Why wait five years?
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Kalyn B Raphael
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CelebratingEvery Friday, Kalyn and I celebrate. We have a group of students and friends who are actively improving their lives who come and celebrate with us, either at our home or we choose a restaurant in Santa Fe. Since doing so, we have not only seen the manifestation of our dreams and desires accelerate in incredible ways, but we have witnessed wonderful things our students and friends are bringing into their lives.
Why is Celebration a Powerful Path to Manifestation?
There are several reasons why celebrating accelerates your creating process. Here are a few;
- Celebrating lifts the spirits of all those participating. It raises your emotional tone. As you live from a happier place, you can’t help but to attract higher vibrating things into your life.
- Celebrating is a form of gratitude. As part of our celebrating process, Kalyn asks each person what they are grateful for in their lives. Everyone then toasts that person and celebrates what they are grateful for, acknowledging what they have received or created. Gratitude is one of the most powerful energies to strengthen manifestation.
- Celebrating what you have manifested or are thankful for gives you more of what you are celebrating. As you celebrate what you are celebrating, you increase the energy, the thoughts, and feelings around it, attracting even more of it. It is also a personal marker for you giving you a reference point to just how much you are actually manifesting. When doing this people are often surprised at just how many of their dreams are coming true.
- Celebration is a form of ritual. A ritual, as I am using it here, is something you repeat over time. When you repeat something often for a long period of time, especially when you do it at the same time (such as every Friday), you create energetic pathways for the energy of celebration and manifestation to come through. This empowers your manifestation process.
- When a group of people with a common Intent come together, such as celebrating what they have manifested or what they are grateful for, it amplifies and strengthens everyone’s power of manifestation. The group synergy is powerful. Plus, having others celebrate your manifestations is a great affirmation.
A celebration is different than a party. A party is for having fun, or meeting people. A celebration is also for fun (we dance, feast, and play games), but also has Intent behind it that everyone shares. In this case the Intent is to celebrate what you have manifested or those things for which you are thankful. Even if your manifestation hasn’t yet taken form, by celebrating something you are grateful for, you will accelerate your manifestation process.
I highly recommend you take on the celebration habit. Not only will you empower your manifestation process but you will have a wonderful time doing so.
Kristopher
Life
Every day I marvel at how amazing life is. It knows us better than we know ourselves and life knows how to take care of us in ways that we barely comprehend, if we are lucky. Life knows what will suit us and what will serve us better than we do because the Law of Attraction simply allows the energy that we are to come forward.
This is a part of the design of life. It brings to us the energy that we are to us so that we may be guided in the right direction every time. In every experience we have, we can allow ourselves to become aware of what we do or do not like about the experience and we can change it. We can became aware of what desires of ours are not being met and we can change this; we can become aware of what we require to be in the flow of our Source Energy and we can allow this to come forward.
The Guidance From Source
We are well provided for by our lives or our Source Energy. Whether we recognize it or not, we are always given what we need to shift our own energy. We have intelligence, the ability to discern, the ability to make choices and the ability to change ourselves so that we may become who we prefer to be.
One of the most powerful and effective tools, or methods, that we have to change ourselves is our imagination. Our imagination is a fun tool because, like energy, it is unlimited. Anyone can imagine anything they choose, which we see in creative story tellers. Because imagination is energy and operates the same way energy does, our imaginations can plant the seed of a new experience for us. Like any seed that is watered and cared for, our imagined idea can grow, attracting more energy to it, until it has enough energetic mass to attract form to it. Another way of saying this is that once we have created a large mass of energy through our imaginations, the Law of Attraction then uses this to attract experiences, people, places and things into our lives.
What You Require
We all require things in life, such as food and shelter. One of the most spiritually advanced concepts that I have ever come across and learned was that what we require, or what we need, is a positive thing, not a negative one. This is to say that what we require, or need, should be seen as a positive thing and not as a weakness within ourselves. People rarely qualify their needs as either genuine requirements for their lives or indulgences that can be damaging, such as the indulgence of an addiction. Spiritually speaking, our genuine needs are the things we need in order to be healthy and whole. These needs are not the needs that are spoken of when an alcoholic says that they need a drink. Quite the contrary, genuine needs are a part of the amazing guidance system that our Source Energy and life have set up to help us along our paths. Our genuine needs point us in the direction of our well-being.
Allow
As multidimensional beings, however, our genuine needs go much deeper than just the needs for food and shelter. The happiest and healthiest people in the world find that they have emotional needs as well, such as the need to have good friends, to be loved and to love their selves; to have their dreams come true, to express their selves and to feel a connection with their Source. A whole person truly has balance in all areas of their lives.
Of course, no one is expecting us to be perfect and have everything we need or desire in life. However, our Source Energy is giving us the guidance and the ability to raise our energy and put ourselves in the flow of our well-being.
Again, one of the most powerful ways for us to do so is through our imagination. Our imagination allows us to see what we need, what we would prefer instead of what we have, and what we require in order to be in our well being physically, emotionally and mentally. When we use imagination this way, it truly fulfills the need, or the genuine requirement, we have. Our imagination can be used to begin to attract our genuine preferences into our lives, the things that will create well-being in us.
If we were to try to imagine another drink when we have an alcohol addiction we would find that our well-being state is not being met. On the contrary, we would simply be separating ourselves more from our well-being and increasing the addiction.
Fooling ourselves into thinking that we are using imagination to create well-being within ourselves when we are really using fantasy and creating more separation is a common mistake. People often reach for fantasy because it tends to relieve any pain they are feeling, just as a drink or a hit of a drug would, in the moment. In the long run, however, it does not create a new energy for us, the way imagination does. On the contrary, in fantasy our energy leaves us; it goes out to the object of our focus, such as the drink.
Losing energy this way can be very detrimental to us because it decreases our ability to attract what we prefer in our lives. We increase our ability when we use the guidance in our lives to know what our genuine requirements, or needs, are and use a tool, like imagination, to attract what we prefer for ourselves in our lives.
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Kalyn B Raphael is a Spiritual Life Coach, Co-founder of the Golden Flow™ System, a published author and channels The Oracle (www.Oracle-Light.com). Kalyn has worked with people for nearly ten years helping them significantly improve their lives in accordance to universal laws through classes, seminars and on journeys.
To learn more about a new class on attracting using The Law of Attraction, The Laws of Self & The Law of Repetition to use your Source Energy to attract the life you prefer by filling out the contact us form.
Question:
Thanks for your answer. I have had and have problems i havnt handled yet and were , are too much for me, including things I cant personallx control. Who said life only gives us what we can handle or that we are given problems to overcomethem? That person wasnt a god I dont think. Its like a lot of new age sayings. There is an answer for everything. While many may be true I am in the habit of questioning their validity. Maybe my problems will be resolved under the right circumstances and after some time. But then hnw much time? You haveto know what difficulties are in peoples lives personally. Itr ok for some person, maybe not you to have life coaching clients or sell a personal development course. Life is not so good for a number of people and many would like to improve things if they could. Its easier to be in the flow if you feel good and life is going well for you. I wrote about life flow many yearsago. My friend was into it even before me. I only have mobile internet at present. Im ok but mainly as Im a strong person. In my view I have to be connected to universal flow, people and opportunities. I spend much time alone when not at art school and work. Ive studied lots of these self development subjects before. I do have lots of good things in my life too. Many will inprove over time. I have very little money and much debt so cant do much yet in many areas including seeing my son. So i dont think flow wil solve that immediately. I am always open to possibilities though and not that negative. Just with healthy realism too. Anyway if you have problems as you say maybe I can help you as i have had lots of life experience ok?
Best wishes X
Answer:
Hi X,
I appreciate the offer, but I see that I need to clarify.
I am a spiritual life coach. At this point in my personal path I don’t have “problems” in my life so much as challenges. What I mean by this is that I no longer have the experience of having more than I can handle and I know how to handle things. I know how to work with the flow of life at which point my dreams have come true.
I have worked with many people over the years and I have seen a lot of people go from feeling overwhelmed in life and like they don’t know how or feel they can’t make things work to turning this around. I have had clients go from being unhappy employees to changing careers, status or starting their own businesses.
I have had clients who have a very difficult time attracting or keeping relationships, especially healthy ones, to them attracting the right person and getting married.
I think it is wonderful that you question things. You should question everything, including the way you think and the choices you make in life, as this is what shifts your energy, your life and what you experience.
? Kalyn
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