Kalyn Raphael

Problems abound. Not what we want an abundance of, by any means.

All people have problems, they are a part of life. However, there is a big difference between those who attract solutions to their problems and those who just accumulate more problems.

You may credit those who attract solutions to their problems as being fortunate, blessed or having a good attitude. You may also think that those with problems have them because the world isn’t fair or because they have bad karma- and both hold some truth.

The real magnetic force that LOA (Law of Attraction) utilizes in attraction solutions or problems to a person’s life is their energy. Our energy is the number one writer in the script of our lives. Energy can be flowing, connected with our Source Energy or it can be stagnant, blocked and resistant. Given this it may become obvious that solutions are attracted when energy is fluid and that more problems are attracted when energy is resistant.

What tends to not be obvious is what feelings and thoughts of ours are fluid and which are resistant.

A girlfriend of mine who I had been getting closer to had some hard times last winter because her business, of course, depended upon the economy. Times being what they are, the artwork she sells stopped selling, so her financial situation became difficult. Unfortunately, she allowed this to affect our friendship, and the truth is that this affected and soured all of her life. The fact that our friendship became compromised really had nothing to do with me, but it became a problem in my life. My problem: my girlfriend was no longer connecting with me, made assumptions about me that made no sense and I was getting a bit of a cold shoulder from her.

Assumptions can be easy to fix, you simply explain what is actual. Within our friendship the assumption was corrected, which helped the friendship. However, there was still space between us and some uncomfortable feelings.

Even though my friend’s financial problems had nothing to do with me, I reached out to connect to her and to explain the assumption. Most people would see that I had done no wrong, so to speak, and still extended to correct the assumption. Most people might, therefore, think that there was nothing left for me to do and that this problem wasn’t my fault and that I had tried to correct it anyways, so now I would just be left with the problem and no solution.

These things are true, however, when we live by the LOA then we can’t stope here. Instead we must recognize that my energy was really the cause of my having attracted the experience. So, I looked at my energy. This is where most people have a hard time.

To look at my energy and to see where it wasn’t flowing I looked at my energy and my feelings. I looked to see any places where I was feeling unhappy, angry or like I had been treated unfairly by my friend. When I found any feelings that I hadn’t sat with, I then worked on allowing them to flow. Until we get ourselves back into our own flow, we can’t hope for our energy to be flowing. Instead, we have to assume that our energy is not flowing and is attracting more problems, even problems which seem to have no solution, like the one with my friend.

I sat with this – it felt rediculous, as I had only taken actions to support her. It felt unfair and it made me sad, sad that it was more important to her to feel as though I was withdrawing my friendship because she was having financial difficulties (obviously she doesn’t know me at all!).

All of these feelings needed to flow; all of these feelings had energy behind them that was causing a block and keeping me from attracting a solution to the problem. Once I worked with this energy and allowed these feelings to be felt and to flow, my energy shifted.

Now, you may expect that I’m going to tell you that LOA attracted a solution for me, which would make sense. Better still, my friend called me, as if nothing in the world had ever been wrong, as if someone waved a magic wand and made the problem disappear.

That was just fine. After all, who needs a solution to a problem that no longer exists?

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Kalyn B Raphael is a Spiritual Life Coach, Co-founder of the Golden Flow™ System, a published author and channels The Oracle (www.Oracle-Light.com). Kalyn has worked with people for nearly ten years helping them significantly improve their lives in accordance to universal laws. Kalyn works with people one-on-one, in classes, seminars and on journeys. Learn how to flow your energy- an enjoyable and quick process using the Golden Flow System at www.Golden-Flow-System.com