Kalyn Raphael

Unfortunately, I see so mnay people I work with not being honest with themselves.And this just attracts frustration and disillusionment.

Don Juan, from Castaneda’s books, spoke of the importance of being brtally honest with the self. This is because when we lie and tell ourselves what we want to hear, we later run into problems when things are not working out the way we would prefer.

We are all extraordinary in the eyes of Source. This means that we each have our own gifts and we are each a unique being, even though we are a part of the hole. We are meant to live the joy of life and of feeling the love that our Source Energy has for us, but this becomes difficult or impossible when we are not honest with ourselves.

The little white lies are some of the worst. They seem innocent and unimportant, however they really activate energies that remove clarity from our lives. One of my current clients is having a difficult time with this. On the one hand, he likes to tell himself that things are the way he wants them to be, but then becomes frustrated when he encounters abrasive experiences in his life. For example, he likes to tell himself that he likes people and likes being around people but removes himself from social situations quickly. He says that he likes being alone too. The white lie about liking to be around people is causing a split, which you can easily see. The statement that he likes to be around people, but avoids social situations and the statement that he likes being alone tell a different story. They reveal the contradiction, caused by the lie. The difficulty is then compounded when he has difficulties in his relationship. He loves his partner, but can’t figure out why they are experiencing tension. He can’t understand why they don’t communicate well and he is perplexed at why they sometimes prefer not to spend time together when the opportunity arises.

Of course, the answer is obvious when we are not believing the lie. The problem is that he doesn’t do well interacting with people.

Shen we are honest with ourselves we are empowered to create the changes we want since we know what the situation is all about. In the case of my client, when he started to get honest with himself he recognized the problem. Needless to say, he also saw that he had been avoiding the truth because it hurt some to see that he wanted to be a person who knew how to connect with others, but was not.

Knowing this, he now was able to make an empowerd choice. He chose to welcome what he did not like in himself, namely his inability to connect with others the way he would like to, and began to flow this. As he shifted the energy that was out of alignment in himself, he found that his ability to interract with others, including his mate, improved.

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Kalyn B Raphael is a Spiritual Life Coach, Co-founder of the Golden Flow™ System, a published author and channels The Oracle (www.Oracle-Light.com). Kalyn has worked with people for nearly ten years helping them significantly improve their lives in accordance to universal laws through classes, seminars and on journeys.

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