Kalyn Raphael

Part Four:

Looking Back

So, today, on the day of the anniversary of my birth, I had gratitude. I talked with a friend and business partner who I’d been trying to catch on the phone for a couple weeks and who caught me during the only five minutes I was online all week, and I was grateful. I hugged my husband and my daughter and told my dad and his wife how grateful I am to be here traveling with them all. I bought a small gift for some girlfriends who I will see in a few weeks and I was grateful to have fun doing so. I loved my last morning in Mérida, where we had breakfast and then walked downtown. We found a new church whose energy was refreshing and revitalizing, and I prayed about my gratitude.

Now on the plane I am thinking about the many gifts and the whispered secrets life has generously given me; I think about the pelican, about the magical places I’ve seen, the new adventures that will come to me because of this trip and I’m grateful. I’m grateful that I know.

I’m grateful to be in my Golden Flow™ and to know that gratitude will keep me soaring in the wind and in my life. I know who I am, the person who allows and flows with life. I know what I want my life to be like and I know how to get there. And I know that my flow and my knowingness will continue to expand and unfold, brining me greater adventures, dreams and experiences in my life.

That is what knowingness can be like in the flow state.

We have a saying in Spanish “No es para tanto”. It’s like saying it’s no big deal, but it literally means it’s not for so much meaning that the reaction is disproportionate to the experience. I love this saying because this is how life is, it’s not for so much.

Life brings us problems all of the time. Emergencies, difficulties, bothers, things to anger us, to worry us and so on. As I sit here in Starbucks in San Miguel de Allende there is a man at the next coffee table speaking with a young lady making a big to do about nothing. He’s American, but keeps saying things in English and then in Spanish, emphasizing how dramatic his story is by saying it twice. He is loud and boisterous, taking up a lot of energetic space and sound space, meaning that we can all hear him better than our own table’s conversations. Needless to say, he is going on and on about how “shocked” he was about how people have treated him. No doubt.

We all have problems and although some problems seem worse than others, we can’t really compare because we don’t know what energy another person has and what they are attracting to their lives. So, we all need to turn our problems into lemonade. After all, “no es para tanto.”

The gentleman at the next table is taking himself further and further out of his flow by going on and on about how it’s someone else’s fault; about how he was wronged. He is enhancing the energy of being wronged and, no doubt, in his life people will continue to wrong him (in his eyes).

To get into our flow we all need to truly have our experience. For example, the man I have used as an example would need to experience what he has called being wronged and truly be with that experience. By feeling what it feels like to be thus mistreated, he would allow his experience and flow it. This alone would change him and his life. It would change how he sees his own story so that he would begin to recognize that he has had a part in it all.

He has attracted and created this just as much as the person he feels wronged him. He would begin to see that throwing all the blame on another is irresponsible because it takes away his opportunity to change himself and make a correction in his life. Flowing is a process: we welcome what we are thinking, feeling and experiencing so that we are truly experiencing our lives. When we remember something or re-experience the same thing then we need to flow it again. As this man flows the memories when they return, he might even see how he actually imposes himself on other as well, doing to others what he is claiming has been done to him.

Life is short, though when we are continually focused on what makes us bitter then we often feel like the pain of life goes on forever. Life can be cruel, but only when we choose to remain in a painful place, like the place where we are victimized.

On the other hand, life can be sweet, like when we take responsibility for our lives and we allow our experience to be with us; when we feel the way we feel. Then life flows and even sadness or pain become transformed, yielding joy and a new day filled with new possibilities, new love and new happiness. At that point, our Golden Flow™ from our Source Energy turns our lives into lemonade!
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Part Three:

Sunshine

On this trip we did a lot of driving from one city to another, from one site to the next. What a blessing! I was so grateful to get to see to pyramids, which I love seeing. Their energy is always so magical. I feel loved, supported; in my flow. I feel empowered, impacted and able. I am more of myself. I had already known that sacred sites tap me right into my Source Flow.

Focusing on the many things I was discovering and enjoying on this trip has made it easy to stay in my flow this week. Even my dad and his wife’s custom to keep a full schedule, which wore me down quickly from a lack of time to connect with myself didn’t knock me out of my flow.

My dad’s wife, on the other hand, had a harder time than I did at times due to the heat and due to a few little spats between them. She is pretty sensitive to the sun and the heat. Being in the sun for too long gives her headaches, puts her in a bad mood and generally gives her body a hard time. In the car, I’m the opposite. The air conditioning tends to chill me so I prefer the sunny side of the car. Sitting in the back of the car we were a perfect match! I’d warm up in the sun and she’d cool down in the shade. However, being as bothered with the sun as she was, she tended to attract the sunny side of the car, no matter what. She would ask which direction we were driving in to try to avoid the sun or she would trade me sides when we stopped for gas but, inevitably, her side of the car would be hot. While I kept warm with my shall, she got headaches and grumpy.

Once again I couldn’t help but see what life was putting right in front of me. How could I miss it? I heard my father’s wife struggle with the sun every day. Here what struck me most was the fact that it didn’t matter what she did to try to stay shaded because, in her lack of flow, her efforts were fruitless. On the contrary, I was fine. I had brought my crocheting, which I quickly pulled out at the beginning of our road trip to entertain myself. This really helped the time in the car go by quickly for me, putting me in my flow. My dad’s wife, unfortunately, saw me take my crocheting out, sighed and told me that my dad had told her not to take up space by carrying hers since we were flying. Now she longingly looked at my yarn and crochet hook and sighed again. I suggested she buy some yarn and a hook the first chance she could, which she did. Clearly this helped her entertain herself in the car, but she still struggled with being over-heated.

Life’s point this time was a pronounced example of how we really do attract experiences that reflect our energy. She and I each had temperature sensitivity issues and we each crochet, but my experience was far more pleasant than hers. I know that I need to make the choices in life that are most in my flow. I need to allow.

This was a great, illustrated example. So often people talk about being in the flow or having had a great time on a vacation, but they are often comparing apples and oranges. In this life example, she and I are both saying that we had a great vacation and a great time. Nevertheless, I had a completely different experience than she did in many ways, namely by feeling light, enjoying, welcoming the experiences that came my way, even the long day trips that I didn’t prefer or some negativity towards life my dad expressed. Whereas she was grumpy at least once a day, she often said she was having a good time but obviously didn’t mean it and felt ill a few times. Now, I’m not saying she didn’t have a good time, I’m just saying that we had very distinct experiences and that, in my flow state I allowed joy, adventure and knowingness in my experience. Quite a juxtaposition to her journey’s challenges.

Part Two:

The Pelican’s Glide

As the co-founder of The Golden Flow™ system, I know quite a bit about being in my flow, about what the flow state is and about using the energy of Source to create my life. Nevertheless, while visiting Celestún I had a great flowing experience.

We’d come here to see the mangroves, pink flamingos, pelicans and other wild birds that live here. After buying our tickets we walked to the end of the dock, stepped carefully into a boat that sat up to ten passengers and waited for our guide to start the engine. This area of Mexico tends to be very hot and muggy, but this mid-December day was beautiful and pleasant. We began admiring the red water (a natural phenomenon that occurs this time of year when the red tree trunks from the mangrove paint the water) as we waited patiently for our guide to try to start the boat’s engine. After the first three or four tries I wondered if we’d have to change boats. Another couple of tries and we were off! It wasn’t long before the peninsula brought us to several large birds on the mangroves, in the water and some flying by.

To my surprise, one pelican seemed to be flying in the same direction we were traveling in. The boat was traveling quickly, but the pelican not only kept up with us, but even started going faster than us. The pelican didn’t flap its wings and it wasn’t a windy day. This bird truly caught my eye because he was clearly showing me still more about the power of being in the flow state. The bird clearly illustrated to me something profound about life.

I couldn’t help but notice the side-by-side comparison life was placing before me. While we traveled in this loud, bumpy boat whose engine, no doubt, burned more than it’s share of gas, this pelican flew effortlessly, more smoothly and traveled faster than we did.

All the efforts of our man-made boat, mechanical engine and our ability to travel quickly on the water to a bird sanctuary looked small next to this pelican. Our efforts seemed huge while the pelican’s gliding was smooth, divine. I also noticed that with our intelligence, humanity had found a way to break a natural law by traveling on water through the invention of the boat. Well, the pelican naturally broke a law of mine because it traveled on air. While our invention took efforting and ingenuity, which is great, the pelican’s flight only took allowing the flow, which turned out to be more powerful.

The message was clear. The pelican had more grace, more elegance and more power because she was using the flow state. She was allowing life to carry her, to guide her and to give her more than we had. She was saving her energy, whereas we were using ours in the form of money for the tour, gas for the boat and so on.

Again, I am reminded of my teachers because I know the impact of this message. It is telling me to increase my allowing in my life; to get further still into my flow and to effort less in my life. I know that if I do so, my life will bring me even more with even less work on my part. My life will also bring me more than I could ever create on my own.

My teachers once said to me that it isn’t often in life that I will know things. When you do know something, they said, then use that and act upon it.

It’s not that this was an esoteric secret, it’s just that I’d never thought to think about the fact that there are things I know inherently somehow, things that I have a good idea about and many more that I just don’t know.

So many things in life are uncertain. Most of the time, at best, we make an educated guess, we do our best and hope things work out. But sometimes we know. And when we know, then we also know what to do and where that will lead us. This was their point, when I know, then I should let nothing stop me from using my knowingness.

Today is the anniversary of the day I was born. You may call it my birthday, but since I celebrate my birthday at a different time of year I think of this as a time of year when life seems to open to me. And this week has opened to me.

This week we met my father and his wife in Mexico City and we flew to the Campeche and Yucatan area. We are spending time together, of course, but part of the intent of the trip was for me to see some of my roots, some of my father’s heritage.

The trip has been, unexpectedly, very tourist-like. We have gone and seen Mérida, Campeche, the pyramid sites of Edzná, Uxmal, the city where my dad was born called Ciudad del Carmen; we also went to a small ecological area called Celestún. We saw some family in Ciudad del Carmen and drove around the neighborhood where my father grew up and went to school. We saw his local church and another church who had acquired their land as a donation by one of my father’s uncles. (This uncle had bequeathed quite a bit of land, donating several plots of land to various religions, no doubt to cover his basis!) The only thing that we didn’t get to do was to see my grandparents and great-grand parent’s graves.

Even with all of these sites, nothing stirred me, nothing touched me or felt like it was a part of me or my past. It was as if I were the complete stranger to these places that I am.

Still, I came to a place of knowingness several times on this trip.

Perception & You

Have you ever noticed or gotten frustrated with, what seems like, things changing?

In other words, have you ever gone down the same road to get to the same place and felt like the turn off wasn’t there? Or, hopefully you have had a better experience: We headed down to San Miguel de Allende.  Last time the trip took 26 hours. You’d think that the same trip would take the same amount of time, but things changed. All of a sudden there was another highway that we could take, which was a smoother ride – and shorter. Once we crossed the boarder the same highway we had taken last time also went quicker and seemed different. More beautiful and with less toll booths.

How could this be? How can the same highway on the same road give us such a different experience? Sure, a new highway may give a different result, but how does the same highway do this?

The answer is easy – we are bending physicality. While the rules of physicality, or form, are constant one thing is not. That one thing is energy.

When you are in your flow, your energy is different and the energy you attract is different. When you are out of your flow your energy is vibrating lower than when you are in the flow and what you attract vibrates lower as well. Another way of saying this is that in a higher energy, or your flow (what is often called the vortex) even the same highway provides a different experience all together.

This difference is accounted for by the shift in perception we experience from the energy we hold. But, for now this is not relevant.

What is relevant is that when we get into our flow of well-being, we shift our energy and our whole experience. If you don’t like something you are experiencing or if you want to change what you experience in the future, the place to focus is on yourself. Get yourself into your Source Flow and your life will change, improve.

Too often our egos, or the parts of us that are out of the flow and justify being here, tell us that we don’t deserve to be in a better place. Or there is some other reason or excuse for our not being in a better place. Do you buy this?

If you are not in a better place, you have believed that you belong where you do. After all, that is why you are experiencing what you are experiencing. No worries though, you can change this.

Even if you are in your flow you can change this and improve it! Do so, decide for yourself that I am right and that you can improve your life, you can attract what you prefer. After all, I’m doing it so why can’t you?

Welcome your experience and let it flow. Take a few minutes out of your busy day to talk to your Source and tell it/you that you are ready for a change. You are ready to be the You that is in a better place. And then allow that better place to come to you.

Use the amazing resources that are available in our day and age – use the free Golden Flow(TM) process we offer at http:golden-flow-system.com – use what ever it takes, because you are worth it! You are meant to have the experience you prefer, even if you are going down the same road.

Love & Light,

Kalyn

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Kalyn B Raphael is a Spiritual Life Coach, Co-founder of the Golden Flow™ System, a published author and channels The Oracle (www.Oracle-Light.com). Kalyn has worked with people for nearly ten years helping them significantly improve their lives in accordance to universal laws through classes, seminars and on journeys.

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November 17th, 2009 by Kalyn

Allow & Align

I am in a highly creative/dreaming (or attracting) mode. I have been spending time every evening to flow my energy and have now turned the corner into flowing my dreams.

Last night I began to dream about where I want to be in five years, what I want to be doing. During the dreaming I activated this energy and allowed the desire to take more and more shape. Afterwards I worked on aligning my energy to the desire. In the alignment process I found bridges between my days now and my days in my dreams five years from now.

So today I will be bridging this energy. I will be experiencing the energy of my fulfilled dreams and a few manifestations today, instead of waiting five years and shortening the time it will take for my dreams to come forward. Why wait five years?

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Kalyn B Raphael

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Question:

Thanks for your answer. I have had and have problems i havnt handled yet and were , are too much for me, including things I cant personallx control. Who said life only gives us what we can handle or that we are given problems to overcomethem? That person wasnt a god I dont think. Its like a lot of new age sayings. There is an answer for everything. While many may be true I am in the habit of questioning their validity. Maybe my problems will be resolved under the right circumstances and after some time. But then hnw much time? You haveto know what difficulties are in peoples lives personally. Itr ok for some person, maybe not you to have life coaching clients or sell a personal development course. Life is not so good for a number of people and many would like to improve things if they could. Its easier to be in the flow if you feel good and life is going well for you. I wrote about life flow many yearsago. My friend was into it even before me. I only have mobile internet at present. Im ok but mainly as Im a strong person. In my view I have to be connected to universal flow, people and opportunities. I spend much time alone when not at art school and work. Ive studied lots of these self development subjects before. I do have lots of good things in my life too. Many will inprove over time. I have very little money and much debt so cant do much yet in many areas including seeing my son. So i dont think flow wil solve that immediately. I am always open to possibilities though and not that negative. Just with healthy realism too. Anyway if you have problems as you say maybe I can help you as i have had lots of life experience ok?

Best wishes X

Answer:

Hi X,

I appreciate the offer, but I see that I need to clarify.

I am a spiritual life coach. At this point in my personal path I don’t have “problems” in my life so much as challenges. What I mean by this is that I no longer have the experience of having more than I can handle and I know how to handle things. I know how to work with the flow of life at which point my dreams have come true.

I have worked with many people over the years and I have seen a lot of people go from feeling overwhelmed in life and like they don’t know how or feel they can’t make things work to turning this around. I have had clients go from being unhappy employees to changing careers, status or starting their own businesses.

I have had clients who have a very difficult time attracting or keeping relationships, especially healthy ones, to them attracting the right person and getting married.

I think it is wonderful that you question things. You should question everything, including the way you think and the choices you make in life, as this is what shifts your energy, your life and what you experience.

? Kalyn

Unfortunately, I see so mnay people I work with not being honest with themselves.And this just attracts frustration and disillusionment.

Don Juan, from Castaneda’s books, spoke of the importance of being brtally honest with the self. This is because when we lie and tell ourselves what we want to hear, we later run into problems when things are not working out the way we would prefer.

We are all extraordinary in the eyes of Source. This means that we each have our own gifts and we are each a unique being, even though we are a part of the hole. We are meant to live the joy of life and of feeling the love that our Source Energy has for us, but this becomes difficult or impossible when we are not honest with ourselves.

The little white lies are some of the worst. They seem innocent and unimportant, however they really activate energies that remove clarity from our lives. One of my current clients is having a difficult time with this. On the one hand, he likes to tell himself that things are the way he wants them to be, but then becomes frustrated when he encounters abrasive experiences in his life. For example, he likes to tell himself that he likes people and likes being around people but removes himself from social situations quickly. He says that he likes being alone too. The white lie about liking to be around people is causing a split, which you can easily see. The statement that he likes to be around people, but avoids social situations and the statement that he likes being alone tell a different story. They reveal the contradiction, caused by the lie. The difficulty is then compounded when he has difficulties in his relationship. He loves his partner, but can’t figure out why they are experiencing tension. He can’t understand why they don’t communicate well and he is perplexed at why they sometimes prefer not to spend time together when the opportunity arises.

Of course, the answer is obvious when we are not believing the lie. The problem is that he doesn’t do well interacting with people.

Shen we are honest with ourselves we are empowered to create the changes we want since we know what the situation is all about. In the case of my client, when he started to get honest with himself he recognized the problem. Needless to say, he also saw that he had been avoiding the truth because it hurt some to see that he wanted to be a person who knew how to connect with others, but was not.

Knowing this, he now was able to make an empowerd choice. He chose to welcome what he did not like in himself, namely his inability to connect with others the way he would like to, and began to flow this. As he shifted the energy that was out of alignment in himself, he found that his ability to interract with others, including his mate, improved.

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Kalyn B Raphael is a Spiritual Life Coach, Co-founder of the Golden Flow™ System, a published author and channels The Oracle (www.Oracle-Light.com). Kalyn has worked with people for nearly ten years helping them significantly improve their lives in accordance to universal laws through classes, seminars and on journeys.

Learn more about the Golden Flow™ system & download a free audio process at www.Golden-Flow-System.com

“All that truly exists is the Now moment. However, if you are going
to go to your past, use it wisely.

Use the memories you have to remember how many dreams you used to have and notice how they have come forward.
Use the memories to remember how overwhelmed you felt with your problems and notice how you overcame them.
Use the memories to remember how you have wanted love in your life and remember how it has come.

That would be an aligned use of getting out of your Now moment, as it would increase your confidence that you can live the life you prefer.”

Kalyn Raphael, The Oracle

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