Kalyn Raphael

See things as they are~

As you progress on a spiritual path you realize a few universal principals:

Blame only dis-empowers you and blocks the life of your dreams.

The past is an illusion and only weighs upon you.

If you are not being loving with others or in your life, you are not being loving with yourself.

Everything and anything you desire or prefer is in your love. When you experience love, you experience the universe. When you experience a lack of love, your world becomes very small.

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Kalyn B Raphael, co-owner of The Golden Flow(TM) System of accelerated growth & enlightenment, Spiritual Life Coach & author (www.golden-flow-system.com & www.kalynraphael.com)

I have always loved the idea of the Valentine’s Day holiday. Growing up it was a time of hearts, candy and Valentine cards for everyone in school. Even in High School Valentine-grams were sold as a fund raiser by some school groups. The idea: send a card and heart-shaped sucker to all your friends, your sweetie too, if you like.

As an adult, however, the function and the experience of Valentine’s Day is completely different. Valentine’s Day becomes a measure of your success at romantic love. It is a great reminder that you couldn’t get a date one day out of the year. It is a great judge of whether your company is romantic enough and whether they treat you like you are something special. Or not. It is a ruler with which to measure how much love you receive in the shapes of chocolates, roses, diamonds…. After all, if you didn’t receive a diamond, it’s not true love.

This was, at least, traditionally true. Thank goodness things seem to be changing. Now, for those of us on a spiritual path we see this holiday in a whole other light. Because we know that everything is about energy and about shifting our energy in the direction we prefer, we know that no day can measure our romantic love. We know that feelings of not being loved enough or not being romanced properly are actually only a reflection of our energy, our own love. For most of my adult life Valentine’s Day has been a celebration of love. The love you have inside, not the love that someone may give you.

As a celebration of love, I have traditionally participated and held Valentine group dinners, a chance to gather with friends, lovers, family, all. Everyone I love. Sure, receiving a rose is touching and appreciated, but sharing love and joy with many people is a far greater celebration. It becomes more festive, more energized and more grandiose.

Just ask everyone at the Jardin here in San Migule de Allende. I don’t know if all of Mexico is like this or not, but yesterday I was egged upon entering the plaza. To our great surprise the whole town seemed to be out celebrating with music, confetti-filled colored eggs, paper flowers and paper puppet clowns. Everyone was downtown: lovers, families, children and friends. Kids of all ages ran around breaking the eggs on one another, on strangers (like me!), laughing and having a great time. People sat before a concert in front of the cathedral. Families sat on a bench eating fresh corn. Everyone seemed to have received a balloon, clown or paper flower. Everyone was laughing and celebrating. Now that is what Valentine’s Day is really all about when you are on a spiritual path: it is about celebrating Love and Life, with all.

Love & Light, Kalyn

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Kristopher & Kalyn Raphael, or K2, have been spiritual life coaches for ten years. They work directly with people taking them on journeys, cruises, leading classes on the internet and coaching groups. They are both published authors and are the founders of The Golden Flow(TM)system of accelerated enlightenment and The Toltec Mystery School. Follow Kalyn’s blog by subscribing at KalynRaphael.com/blog

Part Four:

Looking Back

So, today, on the day of the anniversary of my birth, I had gratitude. I talked with a friend and business partner who I’d been trying to catch on the phone for a couple weeks and who caught me during the only five minutes I was online all week, and I was grateful. I hugged my husband and my daughter and told my dad and his wife how grateful I am to be here traveling with them all. I bought a small gift for some girlfriends who I will see in a few weeks and I was grateful to have fun doing so. I loved my last morning in Mérida, where we had breakfast and then walked downtown. We found a new church whose energy was refreshing and revitalizing, and I prayed about my gratitude.

Now on the plane I am thinking about the many gifts and the whispered secrets life has generously given me; I think about the pelican, about the magical places I’ve seen, the new adventures that will come to me because of this trip and I’m grateful. I’m grateful that I know.

I’m grateful to be in my Golden Flow™ and to know that gratitude will keep me soaring in the wind and in my life. I know who I am, the person who allows and flows with life. I know what I want my life to be like and I know how to get there. And I know that my flow and my knowingness will continue to expand and unfold, brining me greater adventures, dreams and experiences in my life.

That is what knowingness can be like in the flow state.

We have a saying in Spanish “No es para tanto”. It’s like saying it’s no big deal, but it literally means it’s not for so much meaning that the reaction is disproportionate to the experience. I love this saying because this is how life is, it’s not for so much.

Life brings us problems all of the time. Emergencies, difficulties, bothers, things to anger us, to worry us and so on. As I sit here in Starbucks in San Miguel de Allende there is a man at the next coffee table speaking with a young lady making a big to do about nothing. He’s American, but keeps saying things in English and then in Spanish, emphasizing how dramatic his story is by saying it twice. He is loud and boisterous, taking up a lot of energetic space and sound space, meaning that we can all hear him better than our own table’s conversations. Needless to say, he is going on and on about how “shocked” he was about how people have treated him. No doubt.

We all have problems and although some problems seem worse than others, we can’t really compare because we don’t know what energy another person has and what they are attracting to their lives. So, we all need to turn our problems into lemonade. After all, “no es para tanto.”

The gentleman at the next table is taking himself further and further out of his flow by going on and on about how it’s someone else’s fault; about how he was wronged. He is enhancing the energy of being wronged and, no doubt, in his life people will continue to wrong him (in his eyes).

To get into our flow we all need to truly have our experience. For example, the man I have used as an example would need to experience what he has called being wronged and truly be with that experience. By feeling what it feels like to be thus mistreated, he would allow his experience and flow it. This alone would change him and his life. It would change how he sees his own story so that he would begin to recognize that he has had a part in it all.

He has attracted and created this just as much as the person he feels wronged him. He would begin to see that throwing all the blame on another is irresponsible because it takes away his opportunity to change himself and make a correction in his life. Flowing is a process: we welcome what we are thinking, feeling and experiencing so that we are truly experiencing our lives. When we remember something or re-experience the same thing then we need to flow it again. As this man flows the memories when they return, he might even see how he actually imposes himself on other as well, doing to others what he is claiming has been done to him.

Life is short, though when we are continually focused on what makes us bitter then we often feel like the pain of life goes on forever. Life can be cruel, but only when we choose to remain in a painful place, like the place where we are victimized.

On the other hand, life can be sweet, like when we take responsibility for our lives and we allow our experience to be with us; when we feel the way we feel. Then life flows and even sadness or pain become transformed, yielding joy and a new day filled with new possibilities, new love and new happiness. At that point, our Golden Flow™ from our Source Energy turns our lives into lemonade!
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Learn more about getting into your flow & the Golden Flow™ system at www.golden-flow-system.com

Celebrating

Every Friday, Kalyn and I celebrate. We have a group of students and friends who are actively improving their lives who come and celebrate with us, either at our home or we choose a restaurant in Santa Fe. Since doing so, we have not only seen the manifestation of our dreams and desires accelerate in incredible ways, but we have witnessed wonderful things our students and friends are bringing into their lives.

Why is Celebration a Powerful Path to Manifestation?

There are several reasons why celebrating accelerates your creating process. Here are a few;

1. Celebrating lifts the spirits of all those participating. It raises your emotional tone. As you live from a happier place, you can’t help but to attract higher vibrating things into your life.
2. Celebrating is a form of gratitude. As part of our celebrating process, Kalyn asks each person what they are grateful for in their lives. Everyone then toasts that person and celebrates what they are grateful for, acknowledging what they have received or created. Gratitude is one of the most powerful energies to strengthen manifestation.
3. Celebrating what you have manifested or are thankful for gives you more of what you are celebrating. As you celebrate what you are celebrating, you increase the energy, the thoughts, and feelings around it, attracting even more of it. It is also a personal marker for you giving you a reference point to just how much you are actually manifesting. When doing this people are often surprised at just how many of their dreams are coming true.
4. Celebration is a form of ritual. A ritual, as I am using it here, is something you repeat over time. When you repeat something often for a long period of time, especially when you do it at the same time (such as every Friday), you create energetic pathways for the energy of celebration and manifestation to come through. This empowers your manifestation process.
5. When a group of people with a common Intent come together, such as celebrating what they have manifested or what they are grateful for, it amplifies and strengthens everyone’s power of manifestation. The group synergy is powerful. Plus, having others celebrate your manifestations is a great affirmation.

A celebration is different than a party. A party is for having fun, or meeting people. A celebration is also for fun (we dance, feast, and play games), but also has Intent behind it that everyone shares. In this case the Intent is to celebrate what you have manifested or those things for which you are thankful. Even if your manifestation hasn’t yet taken form, by celebrating something you are grateful for, you will accelerate your manifestation process.

I highly recommend you take on the celebration habit. Not only will you empower your manifestation process but you will have a wonderful time doing so.

Kristopher

Life

Every day I marvel at how amazing life is. It knows us better than we know ourselves and life knows how to take care of us in ways that we barely comprehend, if we are lucky. Life knows what will suit us and what will serve us better than we do because the Law of Attraction simply allows the energy that we are to come forward.

This is a part of the design of life. It brings to us the energy that we are to us so that we may be guided in the right direction every time. In every experience we have, we can allow ourselves to become aware of what we do or do not like about the experience and we can change it. We can became aware of what desires of ours are not being met and we can change this; we can become aware of what we require to be in the flow of our Source Energy and we can allow this to come forward.

The Guidance From Source

We are well provided for by our lives or our Source Energy. Whether we recognize it or not, we are always given what we need to shift our own energy. We have intelligence, the ability to discern, the ability to make choices and the ability to change ourselves so that we may become who we prefer to be.

One of the most powerful and effective tools, or methods, that we have to change ourselves is our imagination. Our imagination is a fun tool because, like energy, it is unlimited. Anyone can imagine anything they choose, which we see in creative story tellers. Because imagination is energy and operates the same way energy does, our imaginations can plant the seed of a new experience for us. Like any seed that is watered and cared for, our imagined idea can grow, attracting more energy to it, until it has enough energetic mass to attract form to it. Another way of saying this is that once we have created a large mass of energy through our imaginations, the Law of Attraction then uses this to attract experiences, people, places and things into our lives.

What You Require

We all require things in life, such as food and shelter. One of the most spiritually advanced concepts that I have ever come across and learned was that what we require, or what we need, is a positive thing, not a negative one. This is to say that what we require, or need, should be seen as a positive thing and not as a weakness within ourselves. People rarely qualify their needs as either genuine requirements for their lives or indulgences that can be damaging, such as the indulgence of an addiction. Spiritually speaking, our genuine needs are the things we need in order to be healthy and whole. These needs are not the needs that are spoken of when an alcoholic says that they need a drink. Quite the contrary, genuine needs are a part of the amazing guidance system that our Source Energy and life have set up to help us along our paths. Our genuine needs point us in the direction of our well-being.

Allow

As multidimensional beings, however, our genuine needs go much deeper than just the needs for food and shelter. The happiest and healthiest people in the world find that they have emotional needs as well, such as the need to have good friends, to be loved and to love their selves; to have their dreams come true, to express their selves and to feel a connection with their Source. A whole person truly has balance in all areas of their lives.

Of course, no one is expecting us to be perfect and have everything we need or desire in life.  However, our Source Energy is giving us the guidance and the ability to raise our energy and put ourselves in the flow of our well-being.

Again, one of the most powerful ways for us to do so is through our imagination. Our imagination allows us to see what we need, what we would prefer instead of what we have, and what we require in order to be in our well being physically, emotionally and mentally. When we use imagination this way, it truly fulfills the need, or the genuine requirement, we have. Our imagination can be used to begin to attract our genuine preferences into our lives, the things that will create well-being in us.

If we were to try to imagine another drink when we have an alcohol addiction we would find that our well-being state is not being met. On the contrary, we would simply be separating ourselves more from our well-being and increasing the addiction.

Fooling ourselves into thinking that we are using imagination to create well-being within ourselves when we are really using fantasy and creating more separation is a common mistake. People often reach for fantasy because it tends to relieve any pain they are feeling, just as a drink or a hit of a drug would, in the moment. In the long run, however, it does not create a new energy for us, the way imagination does. On the contrary, in fantasy our energy leaves us; it goes out to the object of our focus, such as the drink.

Losing energy this way can be very detrimental to us because it decreases our ability to attract what we prefer in our lives.  We increase our ability when we use the guidance in our lives to know what our genuine requirements, or needs, are and use a tool, like imagination, to attract what we prefer for ourselves in our lives.

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Kalyn B Raphael is a Spiritual Life Coach, Co-founder of the Golden Flow™ System, a published author and channels The Oracle (www.Oracle-Light.com). Kalyn has worked with people for nearly ten years helping them significantly improve their lives in accordance to universal laws through classes, seminars and on journeys.

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Unfortunately, I see so mnay people I work with not being honest with themselves.And this just attracts frustration and disillusionment.

Don Juan, from Castaneda’s books, spoke of the importance of being brtally honest with the self. This is because when we lie and tell ourselves what we want to hear, we later run into problems when things are not working out the way we would prefer.

We are all extraordinary in the eyes of Source. This means that we each have our own gifts and we are each a unique being, even though we are a part of the hole. We are meant to live the joy of life and of feeling the love that our Source Energy has for us, but this becomes difficult or impossible when we are not honest with ourselves.

The little white lies are some of the worst. They seem innocent and unimportant, however they really activate energies that remove clarity from our lives. One of my current clients is having a difficult time with this. On the one hand, he likes to tell himself that things are the way he wants them to be, but then becomes frustrated when he encounters abrasive experiences in his life. For example, he likes to tell himself that he likes people and likes being around people but removes himself from social situations quickly. He says that he likes being alone too. The white lie about liking to be around people is causing a split, which you can easily see. The statement that he likes to be around people, but avoids social situations and the statement that he likes being alone tell a different story. They reveal the contradiction, caused by the lie. The difficulty is then compounded when he has difficulties in his relationship. He loves his partner, but can’t figure out why they are experiencing tension. He can’t understand why they don’t communicate well and he is perplexed at why they sometimes prefer not to spend time together when the opportunity arises.

Of course, the answer is obvious when we are not believing the lie. The problem is that he doesn’t do well interacting with people.

Shen we are honest with ourselves we are empowered to create the changes we want since we know what the situation is all about. In the case of my client, when he started to get honest with himself he recognized the problem. Needless to say, he also saw that he had been avoiding the truth because it hurt some to see that he wanted to be a person who knew how to connect with others, but was not.

Knowing this, he now was able to make an empowerd choice. He chose to welcome what he did not like in himself, namely his inability to connect with others the way he would like to, and began to flow this. As he shifted the energy that was out of alignment in himself, he found that his ability to interract with others, including his mate, improved.

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Kalyn B Raphael is a Spiritual Life Coach, Co-founder of the Golden Flow™ System, a published author and channels The Oracle (www.Oracle-Light.com). Kalyn has worked with people for nearly ten years helping them significantly improve their lives in accordance to universal laws through classes, seminars and on journeys.

Learn more about the Golden Flow™ system & download a free audio process at www.Golden-Flow-System.com

Watch This

I used to watch everything: the time, the correctness of things, how well and quickly I did things and more. It was endless.

Keeping a mental record of time so that everything was done on time and correctly was really a bit uptight. Generally it got me to my appointments five, ten or fifteen minutes early since I kept watching the time to make sure I didn’t arrive late.

What a life! Living under the thumb of what should be, when it should be by and how many minutes passed on my watch while it did!

Then I embarked more deeply onto my spiritual path. I began relaxing, letting go and trusting. I even received a beautiful watch as a gift for my birthday and wore it, but I slowed my time down. When this watch broke, over ten years ago, I stopped wearing it. Even though I looked for a new watch to replace it, none of the dozen watches I bought “did it” for me, so either something happened to them or I decided I didn’t really like them. My wrist was bare.

And, without a watch, I stopped watching time, my life and my doings.

For so many years I have been living life, making appointments and getting things done without monitoring watches, metaphorical or real. I have been taking care of things, completing more projects and making it at the right time to appointments. The ‘right’ time is not necessarily the agreed upon time, as things happen for everyone such that sometimes my being ten minutes late or early are right in the flow of the arrival of the event.

I have now spent years asking my sweet, sweet husband, Kris, what time it is – because I do keep in touch with time. This has been quite a different experience from my former watching years. Not only had it turned my husband into Big Ben at times, but I only watch time at the right time, like before I need to give class. And, I only ask a few times and then make it to where I need to be at the right time.

So, after Kris time keeping with his current watch, his watch has begun to tell time too quickly. That is to say, his current watch is speeding up and asking to be retired. Although his birthday isn’t for two more months, I decided it was time to get him a new, gorgous watch for his birthday. As we shopped around and found the watch he wanted, something in the display caught my eye! A beautiful watch! A unique, silver-colerd, decorative bracelet-like watch… just my taste! At the rist of breaking my even dozen set of un-worn and un-loved watches, Kris bought me a thirteenth watch.

I love my new watch, I guess it was time to have one again. I have been wearing it for the last couple of days and have enjoyed looking at my wrist to know the approximate time, as a watch with only 12:00, 3:00, 6:00 and 9:00 keeps me guessing a bit. Needless to say, I’m back in the flow of time.

I awoke this morning wondering how it is that I have made it to appointments and kept life on schedule and on time with no watch for the last ten years. Because one of my first thoughts as I brushed my teeth and was waking up was about putting my watch on.

And the answer came in a heartbeat. I have stopped watching time and have been keeping in tune with it instead. I have stopped keeping watch over my life and my doings and I have instead begun keeping them. Keeping them has meant taking care of my life and myself, doing my best to do what I need to do without measuring for success or judging the incorectness of things. Instead I have been loving and appreciating my life, my gifts and my experiences as best I can so that I see improvements, expansion and love coming forth. These later things are the ones I now watch for.

A Full House

A Hollow Hall Within

Where do you find the value in your life? How do you experience something more so, so that your life is not just about going through the motions?

It is, unfortunately, quite common to run into people who seem to have all the right things in life: the beautiful home, amazing things in their home, a spouse, children who are starting their lives, the cars, the career… and yet, they are hollow. Even during celebrations they are all made up and wearing a genuine smile, but continue to be haunted by the longing and the empty space within them.

This is important: it has been said so many times, and yet people seem to dismiss the concept feeling that it doesn’t apply to them. It’s not the things in life that will make you happy or give your life meaning. So many people get fooled into thinking that the right mate, the right business or the right friends will create the life they dream of.  They expend their time and their energy trying to bring this into their lives not realizing that they are on a wild goose chase. The more they chase and try to have the thing that they think will bring them happiness, the more happiness seems to allude them.

In Your Golden Flow All You Could Want Is Yours

Life is not meant to be empty or to feel hollow, the way it can feel when we come to an empty home at the end of the day. Life is meant to be inspiring and exciting,  propelling us to enthusiastically await each day and each new experience.

When we are living in our Golden Flow (TM) then we measure life by a different ruler. We begin to seek out different things, no longer being focused on the ruler someone else uses to meansure our lives.  In our flow we allow life to bring us any and all experiences since we know that life always brings us the expereinces that we truly attract ourselves via the Law of Attraction. Hence, we know that we are meant to have these experiences and that we can allow them all to flow. Every experience in our lives is meant to be experienced and then flowed so that the next experience can come. It is like saying that every time we eat we are meant to allow our food to flow, or to pass, instead of trying to hold onto or avoid the food. As we digest the food or throw it away, we make room for the food at the next meal. Otherwise keeping food with us can only last so long before it begins to decompose and rot.

Life is just like this. The Law of Attraction brings us experiences that we are meant to experience and then flow, allowing us to move on. Just as no one can tell you what foods you would prefer, no one can tell you what ruler you should use to meansure your life. No ruler should dictate what you chase in life, as the wrong ruler for you would lead you on the wild goose chase.

People who connect with life and who know what foods and experiences they prefer tend to allow themselves to have more meaning in life. For them a home is a home so they are at home and fulfilled with themselves. They experience no empty homes at the end of the day because they are always in their own good company. People in their flow enjoy their lives and are enthusiastic about their next adventures, since they know that they will be surrounded by the right people every time: the loving people that Law of Attraction brought to their loving selves. People who are filled with joy no matter what are this way because they don’t seek out wild geese; instead they seek their own joy and meaning from within.

Seeing Through the Haze

How can you get life to shift and look more the way you want it to look?

A key question, no doubt.

There are so many people who do not like what they see, how they feel about life or how they feel others see them. There are so many people who would love to change this, to see life from a different perspective, through new glasses, to feel like life was better than what they are experiencing.

On the other hand, masters often talk about their advanced students seeing life as if they were seeing it for the first time. They say that at some point on the path a students has a deeper vision of life and nothing is ever the same again. For these students, and for the master, problems seem to disappear. Burdens that weigh upon them seem to dissipate into the ethers and these are all replaced by a flowing, smooth life. They live a wonderful life full of joy and magic.

The master and their students seem to have special glasses that allow them to see life in a way that most can’t. They see deeper than the problems, straight to the solutions. They see beauty and love in anamosity and hate; they find meaning when most find emptyness, company when most feel solitude.

How do some people see this way? How do some people change their lives around, as if they could turn water into wine or metal into gold?

They know a secret. They know about how life truly works and they use this to their advantage.

The secret? It is clarity and simplicity, and it comes from seeing what is truly before our eyes.

A master is humble and knows that they are merely a channel, a vessel for their Source Energy to come through. They know that the Law of Attraction will bring to them life experiences that match their own energy, so they seek to be with their own energy. They choose to see what is before their eyes by seeing their selves as they truly are in every way. They know that you can only change something that you know needs changing by allowing it and then allowing Source Energy to change it.

When we recognize that life is simple and we are clear about this, instead of making life complicated, then we allow solutions to our problems. We allow ourselves to recognize that the energy before can change, that is the simple answer. Unlike rats in a maze, no one is trying to trick us or trying to get us to figure something complicated out about life. The secret is that life is quite the opposite, it is simple. It is so simple that we overlook the solutions to life by reading more into life and into ourselves than is truly there.

A master recognizes that energies such as hate do not really exist, only love does. Notice how simple this could make your life. What is experienced as hate is a temporal state like a nightmare, so the master does not focus there. Instead he or she focuses on allowing their energy to change by allowing their Source Energy to flow through them, changing who they are.

When we allow our lives to be simple and we allow clarity instead of reading into life or analyzing it, then we begin to see more of life as it truly is. We begin to see that others don’t see us the way we thought they did. We begin to feel more of the love in our lives that was always there and our lives take on meaning and purpose.

When we allow simplicity and clarity, we come to see that we are simple beings. We see that all we truly are is divine and it becomes clear that we are who we always wanted to be (and life becomes more than we could ever dream of) when we simply allow our Source Energy into our lives.

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Kalyn B Raphael is a Spiritual Life Coach, Co-founder of the Golden Flow™ System, a published author and channels The Oracle (www.Oracle-Light.com). Kalyn has worked with people for nearly ten years helping them significantly improve their lives in accordance to universal laws. Kalyn works with people one-on-one, in classes, seminars and on journeys. Learn how to flow your energy- an enjoyable and quick process using the Golden Flow System at www.Golden-Flow-System.com