Kalyn Raphael

Seeing Clearly

They say love is blind, but what they mean is that when we are drunk with infatuation our clarity is missing.

Real love is about caring for someone, starting with ourselves. Real love is nurturing, brings health in all forms and it is allowing. It, therefore, cannot be blind, lack clarity or lack benevolence. Intoxication and infatuation, on the other hand, tend to be about being blind, unclear and causing harm (whether to ourselves or another).

To think that love is blind is to excuse harmful and damaging acts that are done “out of love”, such as physical abuse. There is no love in abuse, whether it is done self to self or from one person to another.

Love yourself and don’t allow for the blind excuses. Know love firsthand for yourself – by loving yourself- and you will have an experience of your Source Energy that is beyond words… Your vision will be crystal clear.

When you love yourself it is difficult for things to go wrong in life because you take everything in stride. You do so because your love keeps you secure, confidant and connected to your Source Energy. You know that even when you attract something undesirable in your life it doesn’t matter because nothing can truly harm you or threaten the love you have inside. As a matter of fact, the love inside reflects in your life such that you really appreciate, enjoy and even love the people around you, your job, and your life.

When you love yourself you allow yourself to have clarity as to what is best for you and you follow through. You allow yourself to be free to receive the gifts of life, of romantic love and more. You allow yourself to have it all, including a spiritual partnership that is beneficial to you both.

When you love yourself you allow yourself to be Who you truly are, a piece of your Source Energy.

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Kalyn B Raphael is a Spiritual Life Coach, Co-founder of the Golden Flow™ System, a published author and channels The Oracle. Kalyn has worked with people for nearly ten years helping them significantly improve their lives in accordance to universal laws. Kalyn works with people one-on-one, in classes, seminars and on journeys.

Authetically Selfish LOA

Kalyn, did you say that being Selfish will increase my ability to use LOA (Law of Attraction)?

Yes! Absolutely! However, there is an important detail that you can’t miss here. Being Selfish with a capital “S” will increase your vibration and, therefore, what LOA brings to you. On the other hand, being selfish with a lower case “s” will decrease your vibration and de-enhance the energetic vibration LOA uses in your attracting.
Let’s start by talking about the difference between being Selfish and being selfish:

You need to begin by recognizing that your life, your choices and your feelings can come from one of two places within you; they can come from your authenticity or your preconceived self.  By preconceived self I mean that false self or ego self. More specifically I mean that part you that has ideas and beliefs about what should be.
Too many people have a lot of ideas and beliefs that define life and how it ought to work. For example, here in the US people, generally speaking, believe that babies should sleep in cribs by their selves, while in Japan generally speaking, people believe babies should sleep with their parents or grandparents, sharing a bed.
Regardless of where or how you believe babies should sleep, what’s truly important to notice is that the actions we take regarding where we put our baby to sleep can come from our Self, our authenticity, or our self, our preconceived self that is made up of our beliefs. In this example if a mother made her decision from her Self then she would seek out the authentic way to put her baby to sleep. Instead of focusing on her preconceived belief about how society thinks her baby should sleep she would do what was right to her. This means that she would make the choice that fit her present needs and her baby’s. She would make a choice in her Golden Flow ™ such that no matter where the baby slept or who the baby slept with, the mother would feel peaceful, loving and calm, having done the right thing for herself and her joyful baby.
Having made the right choice, she will have activated the energy of her Self. This authentic choice will automatically connect her to her Source Energy, raising her energy and increasing the beneficial things that LOA will now bring into her life.
On the other hand, here in the US a common experience for new mothers happens when she forces herself to leave her child crying in their crib as she closes the door and begins to cry herself, believing that she is doing the right thing by putting the child to sleep alone.  Because she has based her choice on information she has been taught in the past, as opposed to her present experience, her concept of what it means to be a good mother is lowering her energetic vibration, which is causing the pain and the crying for her baby and for herself.

Change your thinking to become more Selfish
What is most important in any situation in life is for you to always feel as though you are doing your best and making choices that are beneficial. The only way to do this is to focus on what you need in the now moment. This means placing your authentic Self first, which your past cannot define. People often confuse this with being self-centered and they think that this would mean indulging their whims without considering others.
However, the truth is that being indulgent and careless is not the same as being authentic. Indulgence and self-centeredness are only present when we are basing our thoughts, feelings and beliefs on our past.  People only act selfishly and self-centered when painful past experiences are making them feel unloved, therefore they are unwilling to share because they are afraid there won’t be enough for them; when their past experience showed them that people are unfriendly so that they assume the person they are meeting now will be the same way, causing them to hold back. Living from the past this way is what causes anyone to miss the now moment and lose their authenticity.
When you are in the flow of your authenticity you are more concerned with what you are experiencing now: what you need, what your loved ones need or what a situation needs.  In your authenticity you are making mature and wise choices.
Coming from the energies of maturity and wisdom can’t help but increase your energetic vibration. Become Selfish, authentic, and the Golden Flow™ of your now moment will connect you to your Source Energy. Your Source Energy is an endless stream of abundance, love and wisdom, and offering this vibration for LOA to attract your life from will create a full and divine life for you.

What if Ohana meant that you are connected with others who are having the same experience as you, so that they understand and are therefore listening and extending love to you when you need it?

Ohana is the Hawaiian word for family, and they use to refer to anyone who is Hawaiian. This is because there is an inherint meaning that we are all connected, so everyone must be a related to us as a cousin!~

Kris and I love this concept and I’ve even been told that Ohana also means “I recognize the spirit that I am in you” – connection.

I love this! Ultimately, we are all connected, so the more we allow ourselves to connect with others the more we end up feeling like we are a part of a community, like we are loved and cared for.

Kalyn leading a journey

When it comes down to it, people are all that really matter. I remember my teachers telling me this some time ago and I thought… people? Whatever, but I want my things, please! I remember knowing that this must be true and that I just wasn’t there yet!

Whether wisdom comes through age or experiences, at some point we always tend to come back to seeing that life just isn’t as glorious without people who we love in it. All the things we desire just aren’t as much fun without people to enjoy them with. Even magical vacations just don’t have the luster of the beautiful locations we go to when there isn’t someone to share this with.

It is important to be ourselves, to know Who we are and to have a strong foundation in ourselves: I mention this because this is very important. We must first love ourselves if we are going to love and be loved by others. Once we have self love though, then we find that our Ohana, whether that includes a romantic relationship, our family, our spiritual family or our friends, is one of the most important and meaningful gifts in life.

Celebrate the love and the people in your life!

Today was a wonderful day for no good reason.

Once upon a time – a terrible, uncomfortable and not so-fun time- I used to think that I needed certain things to be happy. There were  things I thought I needed like money, to be intelligence and to be loved by the right people. In other words, if I was doing things “right” then I knew I would be blessed by life. I would have a good life. Yes, I’m saying that I thought that these things outside of me would create happiness inside of me…

Well, once upon a time I was very unhappy. The things that I thought would make me happy or make me feel good were there sometimes and missing at other times but either way I was unhappy and certain life was not only not blessing me, but punihsing me daily! Ouch!

Tonight I watched Grey’s Anatomy and it was a wonderful episode. In the show everyone, of course, has their issues and their problems, but in today’s episode they put all of the ways life is “supposed to be” aside and instead allowed for a wonderful day. They each allowed for theirselves to let go of what they were grasping for in life – being a good doctor that doesn’t lose patience, being a person with money and such- and instead focused on what was there for them. Now they were enjoying something special and feeling good about life, regardless of what was wrong.

Today my daughter and I watered the plants. While I think life should be such that all my trees would be flourishing, I allowed myself to feel sad that two of our trees, including my favorite that I picked out at the nursery, are very likely dead. Very likely. Then I let this flow. And then I enjoyed the beautiful trees that we have.

Today I made lunch and dinner while trying to take care of 10 other things. While I think I would be happier with a maid and a cook, I let myself feel bombarded with life. Then I let this too flow, at which point I easily focused on the joy of the connection I feel with my family and I felt gratitude for the love in my life.

Today we went for a walk with the dogs. While I’m sure I should be walking more to get more exercise, I simply didn’t care. Instead I looked at my three year old and saw that she was really enjoying the dogs running and playing together so I told her that we should run and catch them. She thought this was great and laughed and laughed.

Sure, some things went “wrong” today and there were a few things I didn’t like. If I need to take care of something I will, but in the meantime I’ll let these things flow.

I’ll focus on the things that life did bring me today, the things that brought me joy. The things that made for a wonderful day. Today I allowed for a wonderful day.

Life isn’t perfect and it will never be what we think it should be. Nevertheless, in our Golden Flow(TM) we can allow for a wonderful day more and more often.

“Where there is self love, your dreams are possible as they flow through the Source of your love.”

Kalyn Raphael, The Oracle

Question:

“I love reading you words of inspiration everyday. what are your thoughts on how past life relationships can affect the present life?
Thanks
XXX”

Answer:

Hi there!

A lot of people believe that past lives can affect our current life, which is true and untrue.

Our other lives create energy that can affect us – this is true. For some it can be a horrible death or the loss of a loved one and so on.

However, we can (and are meant to) shift the energy that we are experiencing in this life, whether it originates from this life or not.

People may often feel that they need to find the love from a past life – and it isn’t impossible to do. However, we can’t change or correct a past horrible death, since it belonged to another life, and the same is true with a past love. Our Source Energy provides everything we will need or want in this life.

It is important not to feel like we can’t find love, since our beloved was in a past life and we can’t find them in this life. At higher levels of energy everything is One, which means that in this life everything is here for us, including love. Instead, all we have to do is allow the love to come into our lives.

Isn’t this wonderful? Our Source never has us go without – not without happiness, not without love, not without what we want, need or desire. We are that loved!

I hope that helps you!

Love & Light,
Kalyn

I see that for several of my students, and myself, healing has been in the air.

There are cycles in life.  Different energies present themselves at different times, facilitating new opportunities, new possibilities. For example, during spring, they say love is in the air. The energy present now lends itself to a time for life healing.

There are two kinds of emotional healing. Self healing is done self-to-self; we can only overcome the issues by bringing love to ourselves. Life healing requires the living of life for us to move through and past our issues. As we experience life and allow both life and ourselves to change, our life experience changes and heals us.

Despite our resistance, life persists, trying to help us to heal and to evolve. For some of my students it has brought love their way, for others it has brought a new level in life with a new job, a new retirement.  They face issues in claiming their own personal power, in coming to know Who they truly are and in learning to be who they are regardless of what happens. Because we, as people, are all connected at energetic levels, it is common for us to go through the same energy, which is experienced according to our own level of development. Thus, I see the same healing energy that my students are going through as I see in a few other people and myself.

My healing flow has come to me in the form of a visit to San Miguel de Allende, or SMA as the locals call it. Being part Mexican, I have spent time in Mexico growing up and this provided many issues for me. As cultures are, this one has its own character and can, unfortunately, be marked by machismo and separation. Growing up I was a “gringa”, an american, so that even visiting relatives never felt familiar. I was taught to be very cautious of people in this large, over-populated city who might want to steal, beg or even kidnap others. I was taught that Mexico, and life, were required being guarded because life could be dangerous, unhealthy, and certainly untrustworthy.

My husband, Kris, and I began taking students to the Mayan Caribbean ten years ago, and I quickly saw that this area in Mexico was clean, safe and that I could relax, let my guard down. After all, there are a ton of tourists here, which means that it is basically a safe area, the proof being in all the people I see walking around! I’ve fallen in love with the Mayan Caribbean, how could I not? I have found that I have strong ties to this area that tug at me and open to me.

My trip was topped off with an invitation to see a film last night. The film was a documentary, “Lost & Found in Mexico” by Caren Cross. It is a great film exploring why so many ex-pats come to SMA to make a new life for themselves. It was a great film that truly found that many people found the space and time to discover who they truly are, here in SMA. Imagine that! Even the movie was about people finding their life healing here.

What a wonderful thing. When we heal this way in life we can’t help but increase our connection to Source Energy and to improve the energy that we then attract and manifest from. The women who came to the Ladies Intensive, a five day manifesting workshop I lead, had a fabulous time and are feeling the magic of SMA and their Source, as am I. The magic has been so grand that we have planned our next journey to SMA for New Years, when we’ll bring students here and take them on a day trip to Teotihuacan.

So life healing really is in the air. As such, for the new friends that I made, the healing that was done, the wonderful women’s workshop I led and the time with my husband and daughter, I am truly greatful and more healed.

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Kalyn has been a spiritual guide helping seekers find the way to connecting with their Source Energy, to their dreams and to their well-being for close to a decade. Kalyn works with Kris, her husband, leading journeys, workshops and also gives classes, working in groups and with individuals. Find out about working wtih Kalyn or about downloading free materials at www.Essence-Love.com

“When love is present, you feel as though the sun is ever shinning.” The Oracle

One of the true purposes of relationship is a great mystery to most.

Relationship is often used to make us feel better, to make us feel special. These are a natural occurrence in relationships because as we come together we merge and experience the oneness that the universe is truly made of.

However, most people use this aspect of relationship to make up for their short comings, which can be damaging to relationships. Our relationships are actually meant to do the opposite: they are meant to help bring out those short comings and turn them around, with the love and support of our mate, so that we turn these into strengths.

“Behind every great man there is a great woman”

This is an old saying that many of us, including myself, used to greatly misunderstand. For us, this meant that a subservient, hidden woman had her place and identity only in her marriage.

However, as most of us have evolved and matured, we have come to see the true meaning of this great quote. It truly speaks to the gender flows, illuminating the assertive and visible presence of the masculine and the receptive and often unseen quality of the feminine. The feminine has been misunderstood in our world for so long and seen as weak because it is unseen. However, this perception is greatly shifting and becoming more clear as people come to realize the true power of the feminine.

The unseen is far greater than the seen; the unseen is connected to Spirit or Source, such that a woman in her receptive flow will hold a powerful connected to knowledge and knowingness of the world of energy and things to come.

People are just beginning to realize that a powerful and mysterious woman in her feminine flow can be more powerful than a man in his masculine flow. The masculine flow needs to “go out and conquer the world” while women receive the world, allowing what they want or desire to come to them. A beautiful flow of allowing, wouldn’t you say? All femininity does is it connects with magic and allows magic to bring things to her.

It is not to say that this is how all men and women are or should be. It is just to say that relationship can provide the space and the love for each partner to become Who they truly are. It is only in the intimate connection and deep sharing of our lives that we can touch deeper places in ourselves and bring forth the power of Who we truly are, the Who that is then connected to our Source Energy.

Can you believe your relationship can connect you to your Source Energy? How could it not? Loving romantic relationships give us the feeling and sensation of oneness, and that is a place of connection to our Source, to our best selves and to Who we truly are.

Love & Light,
Kalyn

This note is dedicated to Howard & Karen, who are using their relationship to develop intimacy in their selves and to support each other with love as they each grow their own connection to their Source Energy and become Who they truly are.

It is also dedicated to Simon & Sarah who are now taking their first steps in relationship~

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Kalyn has been a spiritual guide helping seekers find the way to connecting with their Source Energy, to their dreams and to their well-being for close to a decade. Kalyn works with Kris, her husband, leading journeys, workshops and also gives classes, working in groups and with individuals. Find out about working wtih Kalyn or about downloading free materials at www.Essence-Love.com

Question:

“hi kalyn, this message has come just at the right time for me… thsi year started out great for me, in the four years since my divorce, even tho i have been happy, i have never been as happy… until i met a man who i really like, and who i believe is the man i want in my life, he is quite newly single, i see him every week, he is my drum teacher. i being the woman i am, asked him out a few weeks ago, and at first he said yes, and then said he just needs some time as he has a lot on his plate at the moment…. my question to you, is how do i attract him into my life…. this is the man i believe would be perfectly suited to me….
i ask my angels to convey the message to him, i try send my own pink light to him,
these last 3 or so weeks i have sunk into a terrible almost depression, i dont know if he is being genuine or if this is a fob off…
i feel like i am writing in an agony column in a magazine, but i am asking you because all your posts are along the line of believe it and it will happen… help,,,,,
love light and blessings xxx”

Response:

We are meant to have our desires, both for ourselves and because it feeds our Source Energy. You are meant to have a loving relationship. However, we all have problems because we are not fully in our Source’s Golden Flow.

By this I mean that one problem is that we tend to not understand why we aren’t experiencing that love, abundance, health, success and so on that our Source is supposed to have for us.

We aren’t experiencing those things because we aren’t allowing our Source’s energy to come into our lives because we have placed ourselves out of our flow.

If you get yourself into your Golden Flow then you will align yourself to the energy of your Source where love exists for you. That flow is a place that is always changing and always flowing; a place where we are free like the wind and our hearts are open. We leave stagnant beliefs, limitations and old ways behind and instead allow ourselves to be who we truly are – and then our Source can flow though us.

Work on getting yourself into your Golden Flow – here you will have the relationship that best suits you (whether it is with your teacher or someone better).

Kris (my husband) and I offer a Golden Flow series, but there is also a free download that you can get- all at www.golden-flow-system.com

“Whether it is a painful experience or a joyful experience, when you allow it in, when you welcome it completely, it flows. It simply transforms. At that point, you return to your authenticity. In authenticity you will find more of that love, that abundance, that joy, that health.”

“You are meant to have magic, the magic that you really are, your true Self.”
–Kalyn Raphael, The Oracle